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Tuesday, April 15, 2008

So far so good....

So most of you have ascertained that Doug is again living at home. It's going to be one hell of an adjustment, lemme tell ya. Steve is a little closed minded to the fact that Doug is an adult, and I cannot give him a cerfew. Last night he says "what time is Doug coming home". I said, "he might not be". Steve says "haven't you laid rules down about that?" C'mon, the kid is 21. I'm not going to tell him that he has to be home before dark, for crissakes.

Many have asked, but really I'm not sure what happened that Doug needed to come stay with us. I have learned not to ask questions. If I ask, and I know what's going on, I stress about it. I can not change anything in his life. So I figure if I don't know, I can't stress about shit I can't change, and I'm happy then. And really, my world revolves around my happiness, so I'm good with it. I know that if there was something I could help with, he'd come and talk to me. So until then...

Doug will be staying with us for a couple of months. Yesterday was the first day and there is water testing happening. He's really trying hard to fit in. He prepped dinner for us, emptyed the dishwasher and reloaded it. He's being very helpful.

The only hiccup, if I can even call it that was that Ashlee was over. I had said that I did not want his friends hanging out at our house. Period. So imagine my suprise when I come home from work to find company over on the FIRST day. I quietly took him aside and reiterated what I had said. His response at first was "she's only been here an hour". To which I replied "I specifically said that I did not want this house to be a hang out for your friends, then I come home from work after a long day, Steve wakes up from his nap, and someone is hanging out here? You can see why that would be bothersome, can't you?" He saw my point of view and we were able to come to a mature understanding.

One of the many things I love about Doug is that he can be easily communicated with if you explain facts and feelings to him. He's very sensitive that way.

I'm thinking this will be okay... for a while. Definately a time limit, though. Otherwise it could be ugly... lol.

3 comments:

Your Mommy said...

I love I hope all goes well for you . And remember you are in the drivers seat if Doug dose as he is asked then all is well but if he chooses not to. You are not obligated to allow him to stay as long as you have said. If I was staying with you and would not respect your life stile you would be well with in your right to say I love you mother but get out....lol and I hope you would do it too. It takes a lot of respect for your self to do thing like that and you are worth it....
love mom

sesame said...

I wondered how things have been going so far when I drove by a few nights ago and saw the porch stacked with people....

He's one lucky boy to have you to fall back on. I sure hope he knows that and conducts himself accordingly.

Magda said...

ha people can ask me.. I'm not polite like you .. I made him tell me :P